What's crrrrringe varies from person to person though
Some people are kinda compulsive daydreamers- this is fine typically, and even people who say they have "maladaptive daydreaming" generally don't report it even being all that "maladaptive", they seem to enjoy and benefit from it and find it very meaningful and it doesn't cause them car accidents or anything sooo, /shrug
Those are the people who also tend to go on epic hour long wonderland adventures
11:32 PM
If you AREN'T like that, and even just attempting to imagine dolphin riding on a moon made of sunshine and soda fountatins makes your blood boil a little, well, just, don't lol
i just wanna watch the imaginary sunset on top of a giant magical airship flying over the endless, crystal-clear sea with a cup of android-friendly tea alternative
Would he mind if you did it, even if he didn't get to interact that much with it? Maybe you could just have it and hang out around there a bit and he'd slowly get used to the idea and hang out more
Imaturity isn't about following a set of rules it's about knowing when to be serious and when to be playful. Knowing when to be playful is part of being mature
11:39 PM
Oh whoops mb', english isn't my first language sorry haha
If it's not his idea of fun, probably no one can convince him otherwise, same way I just don't like rollercoasters, other people just don't like rap music or opera or whatever
the problem is you do something you don't want to for someone else, i hope you are not surprised you aren't enjoying it. think about how many times in life you had to (or even were forced to) do something that someone told you to do that you didn't want to, all that experience is putting your defenses up that make your tulpa ineffective in helping you.
you have to work on it by yourself, another person or a tulpa can't do it for you. it's a solo work deep inside your heart(edited)
1:18 PM
cringe is a reaction to seeing a person do something you find embarassing. if you wonderlanding emberassing just don't do it. your tulpa might just have introjected expectations from of wonderlanding from other people that you find emberassing. you don't have to do it unless you feel it's right for you
if one person wants to do X but other person has a strong reaction of cringe to it, there is no 1/2X.
in my opinion ytgr should first work on the reason why he finds it cringe and maybe then let fel have what she wants. right now it looks like a friend trying to drag into a party someone that doesn't want to leave their room. it's ineffective and just causes unnecessary problems
more than that, i think people talking about taking care of fel's feelings about it will cause their brain find it harder to solve it. part of the brain (fel) will want to do it more because it will feel validated, while the other will not move towards doing it(edited)
My whole family slept in the same bed at points lol, just because of poor people shit/mild housing insecurity, I shared a bed for most of my childhood
I get why it could be creepy if that wasn't the experience lol
I'm still trying to work on my wonderland. Still not very good at visualizing for longer than a few minutes at a time. At least I've got it semi-consistent and I have Seb helping
4:44 PM
It's a nice mountain valley with a big river and lake (with a small island in the center)
4:46 PM
Seb was working on creating a nice Tudor style cottage by the lake
I've gone through 3 iterations of wonderlands. The first was a large tropical sinkhole that had developed a micro ecosystem; a waterfall on one side, tons of fruit trees and a lot of light. My current one is a very modern home we all built together, every detail designed with intent <3
10:32 PM
Forcing there is fukkin amazing, and it feels great to be with them in a place that feels theirs as much as it feels mine
i was the one who created a new Wonderland place - a little tropical, oversaturated (color-wise) archipelago surrounded by a coral reef. And there was the airship from before - crashed.
@Felicja (@Deleted User) - jump
I still haven't really been able to focus on my form yet. All I really got is the long black hair, skin tone, and general build
8:16 PM
It turned out to be luck that Sebastian from Black Butler had a similar look (and the same name I already picked out)
Sebastian
today am going to finally design my form
@Felicja (@Deleted User) - jump
I still haven't really been able to focus on my form yet. All I really got is the long black hair, skin tone, and general build
Just don't fall into the one-set-of-clothings trap hah - Anna
8:28 PM
My headmates (well except Faz) are always really just rocking one outif - well they look good in them but ya know, not fashion enough. I'm the only one here who regularly changes it haha.
Fazzie
Just don't fall into the one-set-of-clothings trap hah - Anna
Well... Yeah, it sucks, but there's not much else to do. The way I kinda handle is just, deal with things alone really. Not asking for much help or having a lot friends. As for in-system, there's nothing I wouldn't trust them to do; I trust them fully but if you ask me "Do you trust them?" (or anyone really) my mind snaps to "No" before I go "well they are my headmates and they know me better than everyone else n such so yes" rather than just, thinking "Yes".
I'm sorry to hear that, that sucks.
We have in-system trust concerns as well, but I think we have them because we're a weird case. We have the authority to be what we wish, but I wonder if it's a lack of self-awareness of how we feel, our poor theory-of-mind, and possibly some other stuff like our anxiety that created this insecurity for us. Even though our in-system culture is far healthier than it was, there's more work we have to do
Well... Yeah, it sucks, but there's not much else to do. The way I kinda handle is just, deal with things alone really. Not asking for much help or having a lot friends. As for in-system, there's nothing I wouldn't trust them to do; I trust them fully but if you ask me "Do you trust them?" (or anyone really) my mind snaps to "No" before I go "well they are my headmates and they know me better than everyone else n such so yes" rather than just, thinking "Yes".
I'm sorry to hear that, that sucks.
We have in-system trust concerns as well, but I think we have them because we're a weird case. We have the authority to be what we wish, but I wonder if it's a lack of self-awareness of how we feel, our poor theory-of-mind, and possibly some other stuff like our anxiety that created this insecurity for us. Even though our in-system culture is far healthier than it was, there's more work we have to do
Yes, and also... I accidentally violated Gray's trust twice. I was entertaining the possibility of yelling at his mom. The second time was very similar to the first time. It took us a little while to finally figure out that's what went wrong
Even during that incident I was upset that I didn't trust her. I don't want to go into details on how that went down, I want to clarify it's complicated and even when stuff is weird it's not like our system devolves into a shit show or anything like that. Even when we did have rough patches, they have appeared a lot smoother than other systems we met
I have a totally serious question however I bet trolls have asked it with ill-intent before, so I don't mean any offense by this towards those whom this question would apply to.
Why do so many tulpamancers make their tulpas anthropomorphic, and of this subset, why are a noticeably large number of them styled after My Little Pony characters?
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